Yes, he is one and the same. I really have to work on my "As if.." and not let the kick in the gut that I get from this sitch get to me.
We didn't get a chance to talk to the kids tonight as W ended up with a migrane and had to go to Urgent Care to get an injection of pain meds to get rid of the headache. I tried to help her by doing the pressure points on her hands (it was nice to get to hold her hands) but she was still very miserable.
The headache was so bad that it made her lose her lunch in the bathroom at the roller rink. I felt bad for her as I know how bad the pain can be for her. She wasn't wearing her wedding ring and said something about how her head hurt so bad that she had forgotten to put all of "her stuff" on (meaning jewelry). I didn't say a word in response either way. I was so totally "As if...ing" that I pretended not to hear her. LOL.
We will talk to the boys soon I am sure. She seems to be softening to the suggestion that the boys stay here more, but when I have to work late she still wants to take them to her apartment instead of her staying here at home with them until I can get home. I guess I understand. It hasn't been that long since she left and she still needs some separation from me and this house before she can be comfortable coming back.
I heard from her a lot today and it was nice. I only call her when I am returning one of her calls. I don't think I have called her first in more than 2 weeks. Yay me!
I will have to see if I can find the book you are talking about. The Five Love Languages sounds like one that I certainly could get some benefit from. I want to be on the same page as my W. I know that she is confused, hurt, angry, and lost right now, but I will be here waiting when she emerges from her fog.
Thank you for being there. It means a lot to me!
-B
Me-45 W-34 T-5 M-3 1/2 s-10 s-12 ILYBNILWY 12/26/07 Sleeping away from home at friend's house(because she says she can't get any sleep otherwise) 1/14/08 1/25/08 We tell kids she is moving out
