Tonight I wanted to get in to it with her but I chose to validate her and just say "yes you are right, I should spend more time working on the kids homework". However in validating her I feel like a wimp and that her and OW are just having a laugh about how easily W can get im my face and I don't do anything about it.
It was very compassionate of you to be patient with your W and not get angry at her. Is there a way you could validate her without taking the blame for it? Would it work to say something like "I am sorry that you had to correct the spelling mistakes. I will try to see if I can spend more time with him or find a better way to teach him to spell." I doubt that she and OW are making fun of you. She probably appreciates it deep down and notices how hard you work to keep the family together.
