Brit, You're damned if you do and damned if you don't. So I think you just stay consistent. It's her that is going up and down, not you or what you're doing. She is so unclear to you about what she wants, because she doesn't know what she wants. You keep doing what you're doing...I think it's working!
You're right - It makes no difference what I do. Her reactions are more based on her mood than anything else, and her mood has little to do with me right now.
I picked up D from school and went to W's house for dinner. W was really quiet and cranky. She hardly spoke at all and was really snappy with me when I tried to help her out. At first she just wanted to stay home tonight and have me come over here and she'd watch D. D has been 'off' for the last week, so I made her a dr appt tomorrow. So, I told W I'd take D otherwise we'd have to play pass the baby in the morning, plus W could get a good nights sleep for once. End result was that I packed all my clothes up in my car and drove over here, and W followed with D. Ended up going to Wal-mart to get all the 'essentials' - I knew some stuff I wanted, but W was throwing stuff in the cart for me. I made a few comments about a cake mixture that looked good and W said she'd make it for me sometime. She also said she'd come over next week to make cupcakes for D's school (they have a valentine's party). W picked out a few things for herself - Curtains, some food things and other bits and pieces.
We ended up back here and W gave D a bath while I put D's crib back together and got some other things sorted out. D went straight to sleep, so W and I got my room setup. I came downstairs after working on the beds and W had some candles I bought all setup and put all of the food away.
W said she'd come over and help me paint and went through the house pointing out lots of things we need to do on it. She told me to make a list and prioritize them. No idea if it's guilt, her trying to be friendly, or just wanting to be nice. Either way, it seems like she's content enough spending time over here. Hopefully she'll get comfortable being over here now and again.
Originally Posted By: JennyF
I think it's a great idea that you give her a key to your place...I don't think she'll ask for yours back.
We'll see - She didn't mention it today, and I don't have any reason to go back there. I used it to lock the door when we left tonight, so she should remember I have it.
Originally Posted By: JennyF
Another C appmt? So she went ahead and rebooked for herself? That's great news. She may not talk to you about the sessions, but you'll probably start to see some changes in her behaviour as she works through some things in C. Try not to let her ups and downs affect you to much...stay steady!
Yeah - I think they had her make it when she left the last one. Even today she didn't remember it, so I had to remind her a few times. I'll be watching D while she's gone, since it's her night with her.
Originally Posted By: JennyF
Congrats on the new place. Hope it feels like home already.
Kind of. D's room and the living room feel like home, but the rest doesn't. My room just feels horrible - All I have in there is a bed, a bed side table and a chest of drawers. None of it match. It feels like a student's dorm room
