I disagree, or should I say agree that as a WAS, I wish I had known more about the DB stuff!!!! My H mentioned it to maybe once or twice, after I first left. But he really didn't get my attention. I truly feel that if he had been more persuasive, I would have listened. He gave me the "5 languages of Love" and I read it in one day soon after I left. I suppose he too, felt that giving away the DB secrets to me would leave him at a disadvantage. I think that attending DB intensive with the LBS and WAW would be an excellent idea. If anything, ask her to attend for your sanity rather than a reconciliation. In other words, trick her, I wish my H had!!!
Saus & Brant,
I feel the same way. I wish my husband had really pushed more or got me in to see Michelle. Of course I am by no means excusing my insanity. That is the only way to explain it. I look back and say what was I thinking. I was crazy, insane, in a fog etc. etc.
When I talked to my husband about the intensive I told him that it was to help me come to terms with our sitch. It is part of what Michele does after all.
However, everyone is different. I can't imagine though that the intensive wouldn't work. I think the difference lies in whether the spouse is at all receptive to it. The fact that you two are in counseling is a good sign that she may be receptive
Posts Role Reversal(original) WAW now LBS part I & II WAW now LBS part III(current) T: 9 yrs M: 8 yrs WAW: Sep 06-Jul 07 LBS: Sep 07-pres.
