Spent some time this weekend writing down my beliefs/needs/boundaries to make sure I was clear about what I want and what I'm willing to put up with. I've decided it's time to end the cake-eating, so need to keep repeating these boundaries to myself in order to keep from sliding.
Had my last IC session today. C had said it was a conflict of interest to see both me and WAW individually; I decided she needed to work through her ambition issues, so I'd stop seeing him since she was wanting to continue. Anyway, I expressed all my frustrations and he pretty much suggested what everyone else has been saying - I can't do much about the EA or the focus on ambition. Sounds like it's time to detach.
So, when I got back to work, email from WAW. We were supposed to meet for dinner tomorrow, but I had removed it from our online calendar. Her email had the subject line "?" and in it she suggested another time to get together. Ostensibly, this dinner had been to discuss a work project. So I replied "Thanks for being willing to discuss, but I (and co-worker) have decided to focus differently." Saw her walking a little later and noticed she's starting to look a little haggard. That's what happens when you work 12 hour days and ignore your emotions.
