w8ing Hi I have also got into the its not fair game in my head then it passes
they get what they do- our mlcers: loss of respect of self, friends and family and kids new apt or living quarters alone or rent a room freedom clingy OW- a woman who would take a M man from family run and play a lot trips debt
we get what we get self worth peace r with God kids and their respect and trust better friendships which road would you want peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
Thanks everyone. Today was rough. Again, nothing to report but it was just a down day.
I think part of it is these boards. I read about the interactions that everyone has with their spouses. That there is some communication (good or bad) regarding the situation. Movement one way or the other. And we have none. It is this huge wall between us and we don't discuss it. We avoid it. It seems so different from what I read on the boards here. I think I have the textbook definition of a WAS. He just doesn't look back. He just doesn't care.
But I will be fine - I do recognize today for what it is...just a down day.
And, Peace....I've picked my road. Just hit a pothole today. I'll drive over it and move on...
I think I have the textbook definition of a WAS. He just doesn't look back. He just doesn't care.
This could be true or not...but if you think about it, you are not the textbook definition of an LBS (I think you have shown amazing strength)...most of at some point do all of the wrong things...cry, plead, beg, push, have R talk...I know I have suggested this to you before but do you think it would hurt to have a little talk with your H? It has been such a long time...maybe it could shine a little light on what he is thinking or feeling. Could you use your D's as a way to start a conversation with him? Not knowing anything, seems to really be weighing on you.
I hope today is a better day for you...try to avoid those potholes if you can!
w8ing Maybe UD is right start a conversation and just listen listening even if it is surface meaningless stuff helps the connection Maybe try something light see where it leads I think they just shutdown and walk away while in crises the turmoil is too big and they somehow think it is us they need to run from keep the door open in small ways I would ask my H to fix something for me in house..sometimes I just find stuff and when he would fix it I would appreciate him for doing it and it would open ip a safe door or small talk they are shutdown we can lead them back a little it is hard maybe it isnt their fault..they are sick delusional peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
Hi w8ing, I hope you're doing better today. Great advice from everyone- I've also been thinking that maybe you should try to talk to your h more. Not about your R right now, but maybe there is some other way to connect?
