Sorry W is refusing to see what good she has in her life, what she will be throwing away, and what she will be doing to her kids. I am sorry. I know you are ready to be happy again, and that's good. I wonder what W will be doing at the atty tomorrow. How long does it take to get a divorce in your state? 30 days here....lovely....
She is going to see the attorney to get a restraining order prohibiting me from spying on her computer and bugging her car. Um.... OK. That won't be difficult to comply with.
She said there is no jail time involved (whew!!), just a fine of $10,000 per day that I do not obey. My checkbook is ready...
oh. my. god. um, mark, is your wife insane? is she really trying to get a restraining order (I'm tired, so maybe you are joking and my blondeness is shining thru?).
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
oh. my. god. um, mark, is your wife insane? is she really trying to get a restraining order (I'm tired, so maybe you are joking and my blondeness is shining thru?).
Yes, you are correct.
She said that I just can't help myself (from snooping). I told her, "Don't flatter yourself." Also she said that I am desperately clinging to our marriage. What??? Yesterday, when she told me she's going to see her lawyer, my first reaction was to say (aloud), "Good." Does that sound like a desperate man?
but doesn't she have to, um, prove the infestation in order to get a restraining order?
really just odd, that woman.
and rather than desperately clinging to your marriage, what about the notion of, oh, gee, I don't know, standing by your vows? since when is that a bad thing?
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
She complains that I come and go as I please (I went out on Saturday night to a local watering hole, etc). Yet I am clinging. I would agree that somebody is clinging, but it's not me....
BTW, I stopped wearing my ring about two weeks ago. I am finished.
How did you know when the time was right? That you were done for sure?
I have grown completely weary of the disrespect, the paranoia, the lies, the sneaking around, the theft of time from our family... it all added up. There wasn't a THUD of hitting the nadir. It was an accumulation of hurt and frustration that led me here.
If she came crawling back to me tomorrow, I have doubts whether I would take her back. I really do. She is habitually dishonest and manipulative, and I don't have a lot of patience for that any more. I asked myself, "If I were not married, and I met my wife, knowing who she is - knowing she cheated on her husband and kids - would I want to date her?"
Understand that over the past month, I have mentally moved myself to such a better place. I am more patient, considerate, Godly, and centered than I have ever been. For example, I no longer raise my voice and I no longer swear. And as I move toward what is right, she continues to move toward what is wrong. I stand firm in my convictions, as she waffles and justifies. It's just not a good match for me.
It's taken me a long time to get here. It wasn't that long ago that I hung every aspiration of my happiness on my marriage (and subsequently her love). Not any more. At the risk of sounding sanctimonious, a lot of credit goes to my faith. As I seek to walk in the footsteps of Christ, I find myself more at peace with myself. I am strong, and I am right in what I believe.
Well I know what's right, I got just one life in a world that keeps on pushin' me around but I'll stand my ground and I won't back down
Good song choice. 
