God does soften their hearts, craig. I heard all the same things 15 months ago. It took my W 2 months after moving out to finally see an attorney, another 2 months to give me the separation papers, and 5 months later - in mid July, she sent an email after several very intimate talks telling me (not asking) "DONT SIGN THE PAPERS. Please dont sign them." That was six months ago. We talk almost every day, she is 2300 miles away on the opposite coast, but not a mention of the papers since.

Don't push it along. Be prepared. But know - it doesn't really matter. Living together, living apart, separated, divorced. God ordained your marriage. He doesn't want to harm you, but wants to prosper you. God hates divorce. So they are truly only circumstances that get in the way. What is written is written. Pray, listen, obey. We have a pretty easy job.


Me - 43 and She -36. No kids.
Married 7 yrs - Together 14 yrs