Hmmmm, lets see. D and SIL are having marital and financial problems, raising a family, and planning a move, while you and BB are semi-retired.
But the only possible explanation for why you contact them more than the other way around is because they don't want you around. Yeah, that makes sense. Somewhere. I wonder what color the sky is there.
If she's going to be a recluse wrapped up in her animals, I really don't see any way to stop her. Do your own thing and maybe she'll see you having fun and want to join in. Trying to convince her to get out of her shell just makes her more determined to keep you from being right because that would make her wrong.
a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.
