Thanks sirprize, I appreciate your input. Sorry to hear about your situation.
I am amazed at times how history changes, but mostly I just shake my head (in agreement) and say nothing. I know the truth.
I do no initiate the R talks, I have learned that, it has to come from her. I don't call her unless it's something urgent and I explained to her that it wasn't because I was mad or didn't want to talk, I was just giving her space.
And in all honesty as bomb suggested I am trying to just detach and get some perspective. As I posted above, she is having problems with her life right now and I think detaching is the only option I have.
I have a meeting tonight but they are usually fun, and since my Giants won last night I will have a a lot of fun giving the other guys a hard time...
