I think you have a good attitude. Hang in there and keep focusing on you and emotionally detaching from your wife. Consider her someone temporarily crazy and you are going to give her some space to find her sanity. Don't take anything she says seriously (or personally) even if she's intending it that way. Just smile, agree (no matter how crazy or wrong), or say, "I hear you," and go your own way.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
