Approaching 1 yr of seperation...HELP!

[dixiegal]

Well, its been along time since Ive been here. I wish I could say things were good but there not. We have been seperated for 1 yr and 9 months. It that time we have been to 2 different counslers. Both said for me to let him go and divorce because he is not willing to change or make more of an effort. He comes over every week on his day off. But, says he is not ready to come home. He lived w/his grandparents for awhile. He moved out and in w/some guys from work. I dont even know where or have been invited. He is still working a Poker Dealer. Though this life style helped to ruin our marraige he sees no connection just my failure to support his new life!???

The last 90 days have been so been really hard. I was robbed at gun point, my beloved 12 yr old Lab passed away, and I recently suffered a seziure. Sounds like a country song huh?

He says things like he has kept me in his life because he loves me and wants our marraige to work. However, he doesnt want to come home and work on it. He says he doesnt want to leave again?? Its crazy. I told him today that he must choose to come home and work on it or let me go. Maybe that was wrong but, Im so sick and tired of being sick and tired.

I dont know who he is anymore. Plus, I dont know anyone who has been seperated this long and it worked the 2nd time around. If Im wrong and your one of those folks. Please, let me know.