Approaching 1 yr of seperation...HELP!

[alamogirl]

Alamogirl-

Im so sorry. Are yall stilling talking to each other? Does he has OW?

Im here for ya...

Thanks dixiegal. We don't talk that much only if it's regarding divorce stuff. I don't know if he has OW. At first, I didn't think he did, but now, I'm not so sure. My C said that men don't leave their wives and home just because. There is usually someone waiting.

I'm hear for ya as well :).

[dixiegal]

Hey Alamogirl-

I agree w/the C. That is one thing I know to be true through all this. H came over yesterday in the AM went out had breakfast. Then hung out at my house and slept while I went on to work. (He works nights and had to go in at 9pm) Called me at work and said..."Im lonley here and want you to come home I miss you" Can home when I got off work. Ordered pizza and watched TV for a bit. Everything went fine, he called on his way to work and said. "You sure were real sweet today." Of course, he always says he loves me and etc. Im trying to keep positive. But, we have been "dating" for 6 months now. Every holiday that comes up is soooo hard. When asked he said he would try and attend church Sunday. But, if work was real busy he might not make it.

Yall please keep the positive words coming to me....I need to hear from folks who made it out there!

[dixiegal]

Well, its been along time since Ive been here. I wish I could say things were good but there not. We have been seperated for 1 yr and 9 months. It that time we have been to 2 different counslers. Both said for me to let him go and divorce because he is not willing to change or make more of an effort. He comes over every week on his day off. But, says he is not ready to come home. He lived w/his grandparents for awhile. He moved out and in w/some guys from work. I dont even know where or have been invited. He is still working a Poker Dealer. Though this life style helped to ruin our marraige he sees no connection just my failure to support his new life!???

The last 90 days have been so been really hard. I was robbed at gun point, my beloved 12 yr old Lab passed away, and I recently suffered a seziure. Sounds like a country song huh?

He says things like he has kept me in his life because he loves me and wants our marraige to work. However, he doesnt want to come home and work on it. He says he doesnt want to leave again?? Its crazy. I told him today that he must choose to come home and work on it or let me go. Maybe that was wrong but, Im so sick and tired of being sick and tired.

I dont know who he is anymore. Plus, I dont know anyone who has been seperated this long and it worked the 2nd time around. If Im wrong and your one of those folks. Please, let me know.