Small positive steps, what now?

[SirPrizeMe]

Every experienced marriage therapist has heard these stories: a spouse goes into individual therapy, receives support for a one-sided view of the marriage problems, and becomes increasingly pessimistic about the marriage. The therapist then questions why the person stays in an obviously bad marriage.

I feel very strongly that this happened in my marriage. My wife refused to go to marriage counseling with me, until she started individual counseling first. She was very hostile to me about the content of her IC.

Our own MC never "got off the ground" as it were.

I hate some of these therapists. They see people when we are at our most vulnerable. We, in our ignorance and pain, grant them so much power. And they play god, making judgments, nourishing the seeds of doubt in what are essentially good marriages.