I think all smokers are aware that smoking is hard on their bodies and on those around them, but sometimes the addiction is too strong. Like with any problem, they have to decide they want to change.
Not to scare cac here, but my father died at age 65 due to a massive heart attack. He had smoked from age 13 - 2 packs a day. He never had the chance to meet my husband, or his granddaughter. I miss him every day.
I am envious of you being a SAHM. I'm sure it does help with the energy level.
Yes - I am the higher breadwinner. Fortuantely and unfortunatly, I am a corporate exec. I doubt if I would be in this position if I hadn't reached it before pregnancy. My hope is that, if I work for a few more years, maybe 8, then I can be a SAHM. I think since my H is 50, retirement feels closer to him and he likes the idea of making our nest egg as big as possible. So, he doesn't want me to quit. Some days, it is really hard to walk out the door and leave my D. I miss her a lot. Other days, I can hold onto the future and being able to be more involved with her and her school once I quit.
My H does a good job of investing all of our money so that I will be able to quit asap. It's just not as soon as I would like! I do appreciate him taking care of all the finances and insurance, but I think he forgets sometimes that I have this high pressured job and it does affect my energy level.
Somehow, I think the HD/LD issue is more about levels than building the passion and maintaining intimacy. I know others will disagree, but don't you think you have to do things to keep falling in love over and over again? Or at minimum, remember why you fell in love with this person? and then just be kinder when your desires aren't matching? I don't know, it is all very frustrating, but I'd like to believe when their are children involved there is always hope.
