H just dropped off d3 (he was over an hour late... grrrrr.). He was telling me about his fun weekend, how he went out with his friends and tried sushi for the first time, and then kind of ran out the door.

I asked him, right when he was leaving, when we were going to start the paperwork. I guess I was looking for maybe a glimpse of some emotion in his face. Something.

I guess not.

He said he already started it. He met with the divorce mediator already, and gave him a thousand dollars (borrowed from his mother), and is waiting to be mailed some paperwork. Since we don't have any property, only debts and our child, it should be relatively uncomplicated. I asked him why he didn't mentioned it before, and he said because he thought I was going to be mad. His words were, "I thought you were going to kill me."

I said, "I'm past being mad at you, H."

And he left.

We're getting a divorce. I saw him take a cell phone out of his pocket (which must be new because he never had one before, or it belongs to OW) as he walked away.

We're getting divorced.

He won't talk to me. He doesn't initiate contact.

Time to go dark.

Please.... I need support today \:\)


*dated at age 12- 15 (me) and age 13-16 (him)
*reunited at age 19 (me) and age 20 (him)
*me 23, H 25
*married 3 1/2 years, 1 d
*dropped ILYBINILWY bomb on 12/19/07
*moved out same day, PA with OW confirmed