How did it go with s9? I thought my MC didn't help enough with this part, although there were special counseling sessions for the kids if I wanted to enroll them. Here is what little I know based on books about D and kids, my MC, my experiences: 1. tell the truth but don't tell kids anymore than you have too 2. tell them you love them and will always be there for them 3. don't blame H, or speak badly about him 4. repeast number 2,often 5. ask teachers, others to watch and let you know if the kids are having any problems 6. remind the kids that it's an "adult" problem, your and H's problem, not theirs. They are not responsible, they can't do anything about it, it's not their fault in anyway. It's just a problem and you and H are working on it. 7. repeat number 2 8. don't treat them as a confidant. Don't talk about your problems to them. 9. Make yourself available and open to their questions and concerns but don't force the topic 10. If you want, you can try having them make up stories, draw pictures, etc of what they think of the situation (don't know if this is good or not) 11. repeat number 2.
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M45, W45,S15, D10, Bomb 10/3/06, Moved back in 11/6/06, finally ILY 9/07 last thread
