But enforcing or not enforcing the boundary isn't even the issue. The issue is that if I am truly to own my sexuality and my desire to have sex, I need to be able to ask my husband to take a shower, to tell him that I want to have sex with him. I miss opportunities for sex because I am afraid to ask him/tell him. It's not because he won't take the shower. It's because I am still uncomfortable asking.
It's nice that you recognize that, as the biggest "issue", rather than boundaries.
It's a little sad that you are denying yourself (and your H!) fun, because you are "uncomfortable" asking.
are you uncomfortable asking him to take a shower, or uncomfortable asking him to have sex?
If for some reason you are only uncomfortable asking him to take a shower [in order to have sex].....
maybe you could just ask him to "join you in the shower"
(no-one says you have to STAY in the shower once he's cleaner....)
Side note to Mr. Cac:
Guy, if you're not reading this thread, and thinking to yourself, "I am going to take a shower, EVERY TIME I COME HOME NOW!!"
*smack**smack**smack*** wake up!!! *smack**smack*
Last edited by Dom R; 02/04/0807:59 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
