I just can't believe that I make the smallest requests, such as needing S's SSN, and she can't help in any way shape or form, but she needs something larger and I don't do it, then she is snappy. Actually I can't believe she has the gal to call and ask period.
Welcome to my world - I usually don't ask much of my W, because I figure I'm better off if I figure it all out on my own. On the other hand, whenever something bad happens, or she needs help, she'll come to me. Last time I tried to 'brush her off' and see if she'd deal with it on her own, it blew up pretty spectacularly in my face. I was able to fumble my way through and level things out again, but it was a mess for a day or two.
Of course, now my W who told me a while ago she doesn't want me around, doesn't trust me and doesn't want to deal with my crap has taken on the job of decorating my house. Not the "You should buy these curtains" thing. She actually went there and started painting while I was out. I didn't mind - She did a good job, and I hate painting
You just have to let as much of it go as you can, or it'll drive you insane.
