The Deal With The Devil

[Jack_Three_Beans]

I am with BND and IMP and all others who support you.

All we are here really are cheerleaders.

Advice given here, and often too freely (no fingers pointed, so don't get offended), is advice that can really affect someone's life. I mean REALLY affect someone's life and relationship.

God, I hope that no one here is that much of an automaton, to not weigh the advice offered.

My advice is tempered by my reality, and my reality is based upon my perceptions of the events that have happened or are happening in my life.

I disagree with some here including you, I believe they do try to come back, I do not believe it is in obvious manners in all cases. But that is my perception, you know?

Much like BND, I got that talk you H gave to you, my wife came back, that's my reality, and so it affects my advice.

Hope, you have gone through more than most, if you're done, Good for you, enjoy your life. You deserve it, nowhere in my posts to you did I say you haven't stood long enough, nor where my questions guilt laden to that effect.

Like IMP,

DBing is self help.
DBing does get lost in the MLC label. Too much time is spent focusing on the wrong things with the MLC label...and I think that MLC label is mistakenly applied to 'hopeless' realationships...because even as crappy as MLC is...it is still hope. It is a straw to grasp at.

That door analogy...yeah lets just blow that out of the water. opened, cracked, closed...blah. If he comes back, and you recognize it, you have a choice of letting him back into your life. Hence the door. Whether that choice is easy or hard is mostly up to you.