(1) Blaming me profusely for: her unhappiness in the M, being too controlling, not taking responsibility for my behavior, that's why she's getting divorced, etc, etc, etc. I said I understand her feelings but I can't rewrite the past; I'm doing my best and blaming doesn't help.
I sense a slight shift in the winds here, seems like W is having one last go at shifting your new found resolve. I think you just need to remain patient and consistent in your actions and keep your interaction with W positive.