You know, it does sound controlling. On the other hand, it is a serious 180. She has been in complete control of the relationship for a long, long, time. She has had lots of opportunities to change things, and she's made it pretty clear that she isn't interested. The guy she fell in love with....what if that never really happened? She was out of college, in a crap job, living with her parents, because there was no way she could afford not to....was I a way out of that? And then, one thing led to another, there were kids, life in general, it was easier to stay together than do anything else.... I don't know, but I could see that being the way it was. Not liking the thought, but?????
What changes have I made? hmmm, well some of it is stuff she asked for, I never call her by the pet names I used for years, I never say I love you, I almost never touch her, I leave her alone. I do spend more time on my hobby than I used to, I try to be a good dad.
Anyway, I am going to shake things up. The way I can think of is to ask her what she wants.....I'd be more than happy to listen to other ideas, I'm not doing anything for a month!
Thanks again new_attitude, I really like that you make me think!
