I am a non-smoker and I find the smell of cigarette smoke plus Wrigleys gum to be comforting. My grandfather smoked Lucky Strikes and chewed Wrigleys. It isn't an erotic smell but weirdly it doesn't turn me off. Cigarettes on someone's breath - well, I probably wouldn't like that too much.
My first boyfriend smelled of Pepsi and leather (due to his jacket) - very erotic! Weird, I know.
My H has his own smell that I am really drawn to. I cannot explain it but it is uniquely him. I sometimes think that his body chemistry and mine have some kind of biological stamp of approval on the combination because even though he acts completely non-sexual toward me a lot of the time - his smell makes me hottttttttttt.
You DO need to be able to say Honey, take a shower and while you are doing so I will lay on this bed with a hot novel and get ready or I will shower with you or I will chat with you in the bathroom while you shower. Whatever. IT is important to recognize too that our associations with certain smells and other cues can change. A smell that was sexy can become a turn off with certain associations and one that is a turn off can become sexy too. What would happen if you imagined your smokey smelling favorite guy as a bad boy, James Dean kind of character in your own little sexual drama?? or maybe he is a James Bond kinda guy, suave, man of the world and you are drawn in by the glamour????????
