I have gradually introduced more decorative elements but kept to a neutral bachelor type look so as not to offend H's sensibilities
Karen! how "gradually"? How long have y'all been married? Honey, you're keeping WAY too low a profile! It's YOUR house, too. You're not a girlfriend. Your his wife, mother of his children! Make your presence felt. I've been suspecting for a long while that you're too nice... (it's the way you listen patiently to Dom and actually reply to him). Find the Inner Bitch. You don't have to express her-- just FIND her, okay?
