I guess when this thread locks up I'll move my story over to the "Piecing my Marriage back together again" section as I think that this is the done thing , so you can keep track of me over there. I'll still be on the board offering advice to Newcommers although not as often, as W has said she feels we should spend our evenings together mending the marriage.
It's been a long roller coaster ride but at this point I'll just be changing carriages, not leaving the ride totally. It's been exhausting but I'm on this journey for the duration.