How do I begin piecing??

[MichelleLT]

As our H's seem to have similar personalities, I will comment first on the C. If he feels friendly towards you but it not ready to solidly recommit, he will be ambiguous or even hostile to MC. Another possible reason he might not be willing to go is that he feels comfortable with how things are progressing and will not want to make "drastic" changes.

Us girls tend to think that talking fixes things, and men do not usually share that perception. That's one of the reasons I picked up "Why Talking is Not Enough."

If it is important to you, I say ask him. But just ask him. No justifications, no convincing talk when the look on his face is skeptical. Be prepared for him to get defensive or just say no. Something along the lines of "I would really like to go back to joint counseling" and then let him have his say and give him time to think it over.

A lot can change in the next 5 months. Give yourself some time to decompress from the trip and the wedding talk before you make any big decisions. Also, I say call him after work. He may want to do dinner, but at worst you can probably chat. It may recharge your DBing motivation to talk to him.