You know, it sounds really awful when you put it that way.
But enforcing or not enforcing the boundary isn't even the issue. The issue is that if I am truly to own my sexuality and my desire to have sex, I need to be able to ask my husband to take a shower, to tell him that I want to have sex with him. I miss opportunities for sex because I am afraid to ask him/tell him. It's not because he won't take the shower. It's because I am still uncomfortable asking.
BTW, Mojo, I find it interesting that you found the smell of smoke to be erotic. More power to you. But as you said, I need to own my preferences and make decisions based on them, and this is a big one.
