Mark-

There's a big part of me that refuses to intitiate any D proceedings either. This was H's decision, not mine. My H told me in a drunken rage that our D will know the truth, as if the blame was all mine. I responded by telling him, yes she will.

I've also come to realize a sad fact that I hate thinking about. I hear so many people talk about the OP's spouse and how the OP has been married two or three times. The OP has had more than one A. I've come to realize that I am the OP's spouse in many of these situations. I'm the one whose H is cheating on me again, the one whose spouse has been married a second time and is looking for his 3rd wife before D'ing the second. Yet, there's someone out there (OW) who still wants him. Not sure if she knows all the details of everything. I doubt it. Probably doesn't make me look very smart either, but it's hard to move past 17 years together and hard to overlook a child and the good times we have had.

I'm glad you're back posting! Coming back to MN anytime soon?

SueS


ME: 42, H: 42, D6
Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs.
Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009
Status: Working on it day by day