I need to come at this from a completely different angle and I'm not sure what that is, or how to do it, or even if I should ... ========================== that was step 1 edi, keep cranking those wheels...
Before the summer bomb my H and I did ML, but there was no emotional intimacy, the kind I see when a H caresses his W's face, none of that. I remember a few discussions i'd have with H, --who previous to his WAS state would want to ML all the time-- then thought that more than 2x a week was too much. I, of course, ended up crying and upset and he'd say things like "jeez, way to destroy my masculinity, just cut my ****s off already". I thought it was just physical but now I realize he really didnt' "let me in", thus, the ML suffered.
If not MC, would he agreed to IC? no questions asked afterwards about what was said during T?
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
