it's more than the physical aspect, it is about your H letting you into his vulnerable side, perhaps he still feels "unsafe" with you (even though it should be the other way around", BTDT,) perhaps he thinks you still hold grudges, haven't really forgiven him or thinks you'll get back at him (that's what my H thought, it could not be true with your H but just wanted to throw this idea out there).
There has to be emotional intimacy at some degree for physical intimacy, perhaps he still not ready to give of himself without reserve.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
