Reclaiming myself and my life

[saffie]

You know Frank, if you want insight into what your W is thinking then ask HER.

No-one else can possibly know - and it sounds from your view point, (via your posts), like she doesn't know either - or she is too scared to tell it to you as it is - for whatever reason.

It doesn't take Einstein to work out though that it is easier to love someone who is on top of their game and bringing in the money and keeping the family secure than it is to love a person who is bitter and self medicating with alcohol and is full of self pity.

You may have started making changes that make you feel better about you but I expect your W is left behind in the wake somewhere, trying to keep her head up and tread water until she can see what the outcome is going to be with you and your changes; are they for real or are they only temporary? What will Frank be like tomorrow, next week, next month?

I am very sorry for what you are going through now, and for how your W has hurt you both now and before. I feel very sorry for your W though as well - doesn't sound like she is having a ball either.

I don't believe you answered my question that I asked a couple of posts to you ago - do you still want to be M'd to your W?