Thanks, WAS! I realized after that was up a while that it might sound like I was to the point of filing, but I really am not. The intention was to say that I don't plan to leave, but I think it is possible for her to leave, and it only be a finacial disaster, not a catastophe.
What I hope to do is get her to either commit or not. And if she commits, to actually take action (which I think would have to include counseling, probably individually and together). If she doesn't, I'd like her to go. If it was going with a possibility of return, I think I could deal with it, I don't know what the ground rules would be, but I don't think it could be open ended. There's been too much open ended to this point. Sadly, if she left with no intention of coming back, I don't think I'd even be disappointed, though trying to say that ahead of time is clearly just a guess!
I've got a month before I do anything, so I have time to consider, and think.
Thanks for your thoughts and support, I appreciate it!
