my wife found out yesterday that her father's cancer has come back. it does not look good. he was in surgery yesterday to remove the malignant tumor. doctor said he will need radiation treatment. if that does not stop spread, he only has a few months to live. wife has been very quiet, i know she is pain. the additonal pain from our situation and the new development is really putting pressure on her. please pray for her father, Jim, and my wife. she is keeping it all inside. The Lord works in mysterious ways. i just need to keep my eyes focused on him through this whole situation.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
I can relate to the terrible cancer variable being thrown into the nasty mix of stuff that is having to be dealt with. You never want to hear of that and its wide reaching suffering. But as you and I both know there is one sure thing to do and that is pray. And I will.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
well, mother in law called to tell us that the information on wifes father might be incorrect!!! it might not be cancer afterall. i don't quite understand how two doctors can have such different diagnosis. but that is good news. i told wife this info. she said, you mean i cried all day for nothing.had an awesome worship and sermon at church yesterday. the Lord is amazing.keep asking the Lord for a positive sign, will keep praying. w has made no effort to save money to move out or to try to work on house to get ready to sell. very strange. i have told her i have reduced my 401 contribution to help save money so she could move . she said nothing.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
My W said something to me a few months ago, one of our R talks, where we were reflecting back on the "junk" that got in our way. I thought about it after reading your posting about your FIL. She pointed out during our wedding vows we promise "in sickness and in health" - but noted that is not limited to our sickness or health. My mom and dad both has major surgeries a few years back and it was a trying time for our M.
You're a good husband craig. Keep supporting her and don't be a victim of the circumstances.
Me - 43 and She -36. No kids. Married 7 yrs - Together 14 yrs
phil, it has been almost five months since my wife said she wanted a divorce. just filed papers 10 days ago. has talked about moving out. but has no money to do so. she has not really tried to save any money , nor has she made an effort to get our house ready to sell. i guess those are all positives. her original stance on wanting to get divorce has not changed. she still says the same thing. our day to day existence is friendly. she still seems emotionally detached from me.
m-54 w-44 children-4 bomb-sept 21 2007 t-21 m-20yrs bomb-sept 23 2007 divorced but not giving up hope, not yethttp://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#post1224023
God does soften their hearts, craig. I heard all the same things 15 months ago. It took my W 2 months after moving out to finally see an attorney, another 2 months to give me the separation papers, and 5 months later - in mid July, she sent an email after several very intimate talks telling me (not asking) "DONT SIGN THE PAPERS. Please dont sign them." That was six months ago. We talk almost every day, she is 2300 miles away on the opposite coast, but not a mention of the papers since.
Don't push it along. Be prepared. But know - it doesn't really matter. Living together, living apart, separated, divorced. God ordained your marriage. He doesn't want to harm you, but wants to prosper you. God hates divorce. So they are truly only circumstances that get in the way. What is written is written. Pray, listen, obey. We have a pretty easy job.
Me - 43 and She -36. No kids. Married 7 yrs - Together 14 yrs
