Still Standing!!!!!

[enlightenbylife]

I continue posting on this thread because I am STILL standing.

I am GAL but am a little confused as I don't want my H to think that I don't care anymore.

He does his thing and for the most part I do mine

I don't crawl in bed anymore because " if it isn't working stop doing it."

He enjoyed it somewhat,but was it moving us forward? ...I don't know.

Sometimes I think I should still be doing it but I don't want to seems as though I am pursuing.

Sometimes this is so confusing

This past week, because he was on the opposite shift of me, I talked to him the Sunday before and then not until the next Saturday.

Was o.k. with me...

Sometimes when he is not there things are so peaceful.

Really I have nothing to say to him.

How can we get to the "communication" part of this relationship when I have nothing to say to him and he walks around with a burr up his Huhmmmmmm.

It seems as though we are drifting farther and farther away.

Is that so bad???? I don't know???? Sometimes I really don't care anymore

But i guess if Im writing this I do to some extent.

Well going to get back to the superbowl but will keep my eyes on the forum also

E

[enlightenbylife]

This morning.....

We have had a death in the family and I asked him if he wants to go together to the funeral home.

He said no he does not want to give anyone the wrong idea.

I then said ,with a big pause in between," well that's too bad but if that's how you feel that's what we'll do" He rolled his eyes.

I then said " I have a question....he jumped in "what am I still doing here???? I'm looking for a f---ing house because I'm not renting!!!"

"Well if you need me I'm here" rolls his eyes(If he rolls them anymore the'd come out of his head!)

I started to say something else and he said

H -"what! say what you have to say..."

E -"I don't want this seperation"

H- "that you're going for all that you can get"

E -"I never said that???"

H -"yes you did about 10 times"

E -(he's walking out the door)"have a great day"

I knew somwthing was up. He was home from his brothers superbowl before 7:30. (The brother that is going through the divorce)
He had a scowl on before I even came home.

I'm going to call BIL to ask what was said. What happened. I have a really good idea

Help

E

[enlightenbylife]

Talked to BIL.

H went to look at open houses before superbowl.

Numbers must have hit him hard.

He won't be able to afford a mortgage and this is probably the reason for the "burr" up his butt.

Why does he think I'm his enemy?????

He knows all this already???

I'm starting to crack...
E

[Virtually_Handsome]

(((((E)))))
He is going to do what he is going to do! You can't control him. I wouldn't try to get in his head so much, it is messy in there.

I know you are angry and frustrated with him, but to get what you want you can't show that to him so much.

I hope yu have a good day today!

[new_attitude]

(((e)))

He is taking his frustrations out on you. Try not to believe any of it! I hope you're having a better day today.

[enlightenbylife]

Thanks Dh and NA,

Yea you're right.

When this all started we both said that we would keep this peaceful and do as much as we could without the lawyers

He has gone behind my back and done his financial statement with his lawyer anyway

He is putting in the financial statement things that don't make sense. (his monthly grooming bill $100? He shaves his head!,This among other things don't make sense at all!)

I still would like to do this out of the lawyers hands, how do I get alimony without sending in my financial statement?

I know how to divide up things but how do I do the alimony part without putting in to the lawyer financial details?

Can anyone help me please???

I want this to be as amicable as possible?

E

[enlightenbylife]

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