Hi Sue, The best thing about your post? It was mostly about you, and very little about H! And even when Lunkhead went and tried to make everything about himself, you didn't let him. Way to go, keep it up!!!
Thread #10 22 year M, MLC, Piecing since 1/07 Goal: Live with confidence & enthusiasm!
My favorite response to unbelievably pissy and foggy statements like that is to just look at them like you're amazed, then shake your head silently, and then just say "Wow," and walk away.
I think it's great that you have family that obviously loves you very much!
Hey Sue, ignore the child in the room (NOT D3!) and enjoy your life, your family and your birthday. He is just jealous and paranoid. Been there done that.....
Well, it was a pretty good weekend overall. D3 left to stay with my parents. She called a couple of times last night.
The rest of the Sunday was fine. Just ran some errands yesterday, buying myself some things and then hung out at home. H asked a lot of of "where are you going?", "what are you doing?" questions. Even when I was just running down the hall to get mail. H made a great dinner to have during Super Bowl, asking questions beforehand about what I'd like for dinner and mentioning what he'd like to make us for dinner tonight. Oh, and he mentioned that Matchbox Twenty is in town tonight and that he wished we had some extra $ so we could go to it. Odd. H slept in the bed last night, cuddling up to me and rubbing my back. He got up later and was clicking away on the pc.
My head is telling me that it's still over and that I know H still wants to be with OW and out of my life. However, my heart is having a tough time being convinced and letting go. That logical part of me pops up out of no where at times and shouts to me that getting away from it all is the best thing to do right now. Then my heart wrestles it's way in and says, but this is your H, the man you've been with for 17 years. The logical part comes back and says, but he's the one that wants out, you can't stop him.
Well, I need to get busy. I was suprised with myself this weekend for being able to not be concerned with what H thought. He went out Sat. night and I was able to go out and not worry about things. I didn't worry yesterday when I left about getting back quickly or what I was buying. I guess maybe I am detaching. It's just still hard.
SueS
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
H called me at work today and asked if I wanted to go see Matchbox Twenty tonight. He'd mentioned it yesterday, but didn't bring it up again. Our D3 is out of town and I accepted his invitation. Should I, shouldn't I? I am trying to see it as just fun going to see a band I've never seen before. H is being a bit "professional" about it, so I will be too. I'm a bit surprised, as he's gone to concerts alone before, even when D3 was gone and I could have gone with.
SueS
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
mb20 sounds great! Dont rush anything. I have faith in you.
One thing i did was write down all the red flags and green flags on what w was doing. My conclusion was, at that time, she didnt know what she wanted. She was flipping back and forth. I wish i had detached further so she could have missed me. Instead of being right there for her. Now she says she has to see this thing through with om, might work with him might not. I guess what im trying to say is just take it slow have fun and reconnect.
Best of luck light switch
Me 37 W 37 D21 D17 D12 S8 grandparents 7/07 boy Married 16 yrs last June 07 Bomb dropped 4/07
"Do what you feel in your heart to be right-for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do, and damned if you don't", Eleanor Roosevelt
