Good to hear you're doing better, brian. Your story made me recall an episode when I was in the hospital preparing to undergo a double hernia repair. In pre-op, my W asked me, "so, do you want me stick around?"
I was pretty focused on my own anxieties and was caught by surprise with her question. Yeah, I expected her to read my mind and stay. I knew that, had the roles been reversed, (and, in actuality, they have been reversed, several times), I would have stayed without being asked.
When I woke up, she was not there. She showed up at the door to pick me up and take me home, after I checked out. I think she went to her office to work, but my recollection is that it was nothing particularly pressing.
This Friday, she's having eye surgery and I'm taking the day off to drive her there, wait, and drive her home. She will be largely dependent on me to be "her eyes" for the weekend. Even though I understand that it is just the way she is, I am still working through my feelings on this issue of what a marriage should be, and what should be understood by the parties involved.
With her, I realize that I need to clearly state what I want from her.
