All Hope is lost/Help - Part 2

[25yearsmlc]

I don't get it. Why are YOU going? OMG! Pursuing, I don't care what you say or think it is absolutely PURSUING HIM AGAIN....

sorry to yell but that's what the capital letters are for. (SIGH) (sigh again)

I guess I have to say this, again. Please, dear God, NO R TALK and try to be upbeat and Not needing him. He was planning a FUN trip/vacation, not a stressed out scorecard for who was parenting more, versus skiing with the boys and sharing with the s2, forcing decisions from him, asking about his feelings, thoughts, or staring and trying to de-code his facial expressions. Just take a chill pill and relax and do not ask him a bunch of questions about his future, career, childhood issues, blah blah blah. You can't fix him.
Show him he can have fun in your presence, without you assuming a reconciliation. That's pressure and pursuit. Back off and please don't go on a vacation with him again before the M issues are resolved OR HE initiates it FOR the M, not the kids, convenience, etc. Make sense?

just my not so humble opinion.
j-