Had a talk with d20 and w about d20 problems. basicly encouraging d20 that she is better than this and to do what's best for her and gs. some things she said were like she understood and others felt like they would be together in a week. I told her if she wants to go to crises center i would go with for support, she didnt want to go alone last time then decided not to go.
wife still ran me down about not caring about d20 enough to talk to xbf. I went to talk to him the night before this happened but couldnt cause d20 was there.
I brewed about this whole sitch and went to xbf and said - This is something i should have done a long time ago. Im tired of u hurting my d20 this is the last straw, If u ever hurt her or bother her i will hunt u down and u wont like it. I was in his face, his head was down and he wouldnt look at me. His responce was i'll leave her alone, she beats me up, she broke my phone. I just laughed to myself and walked away. I was really hoping he would do something so i could 'defend myself'.
I told wife thank you cause i felt pretty good after this. I do realize its my daughters decision to make but stepped in for her and gs's safety.
A comment i made to my wife today was - do you realize why some of the things u said and did last night would hurt me? she said yes. and i left it at that.
I went in kitchen to help with supper a little. wife and i had an ok light talk about day to day things. I was supprised she talked at all considering how she has been lately and that she is going to see om on the 13th. Twards the end of our convo she said she wanted to have some seperation papers drawn up. I agreed. She said she didnt expect that. I said legaly or only by us. she didnt care or know (dont remember). I feel like im hiding something by not telling her i have a l appointment wed. SHOULD I TELL HER? My reasons for going to l are to find out if moving out hurts in custody later. Does legal seperation then moving out correct that? Does Legal seperation split up bills and make her accountable to whatever is assigned to her? Things like that.
I love my wife and want nothing more than to continue life with her, just in a better way than we were doing it.
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Me 37 W 37 D21 D17 D12 S8 grandparents 7/07 boy Married 16 yrs last June 07 Bomb dropped 4/07
"Do what you feel in your heart to be right-for you'll be criticized anyway. You'll be damned if you do, and damned if you don't", Eleanor Roosevelt
