so glad your D's birthday went so well. I am so happy for you
I feel the same about my in-laws lately too. I have not spoken to my MIL for three weeks, I don't know if h told her I was in florida, maybe that is why she has not called me, she is most likely mad i did not invite her over to stay.
As for my SIL, its been now three months since i have spoken to her. I think i am being erased from them. As the old saying goes blood is thicker than water, It just hurts me, since i have no sisters she was not my SIL she was my sister, and i feel i have lost someone very special to me.
glad party went well!!!
Enjoy the cake and the WINE
hugs bear
Me 42-Him 40 T20yrs Married 16yrs 2/06 H- "not sure if i want to be married anymore" 6/07 H-"I'm not happy" 9/07 Admits affair & OW 12/08 I moved out 12/09 still waiting for divorce
Great to see that you have a positive post and stopped any negative thoughts from seeping in about H. Keep up the good work. You're doing a great work. And, even though you feel like you're falling sometimes, you really are an inspiration to many of us who aren't doing as well.
M 5yrs 1st baby-girl born 6/18/08 Bomb: 10/13/07 OW - I was 6wks Prego H Moved in w/OW: 11/2/07 D Final 07/10 OW had his baby 3/17/09-so her Me, now - happier than I ever was with him
wheretogofromhere...wow, you don't get much more 'neighbours' than that!
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Gee thanks Jenny !! Can you rub it in a little more? Buttercream frosted B-day cake AND pumping breasts
LMAO...thanks, I needed that laugh!
B...I'm glad I made you smile!
blindsided...that is really sweet of you, thanks. Don't think for a second that you're not doing well...I think you're doing great!
H has S for a few hours right now. I cried again after he left...that was tough. He came here to get S, then went to pick up D from pre-school. He forgot something important of D's, so after he picked her up he came back. I ran out to the driveway to give it to D and opened the door to give her a kiss. She asked me if I wanted to go to Grandma's too. When I told her I would see her tomorrow morning, she got upset. Said she didn't want to have a sleepover at Grandma's. I was really upbeat with her and said she was going to have a lot of fun with Daddy. It was tearing me up. I didn't even look at H. Just gave her a kiss, told her I loved her and smiled at her as I shut the door. I really hope that these little things are touching him somewhere. I really hope that he's not playing them off to himself as much as he is to others.
So...I'm sitting in a quiet house! Just me and Leroy (my cat). Thanks to B I've got 3 little birds playing over and over in my head!
J~
M 35 H 29 M 4 yrs T 9 yrs D 3 S born 10/19/07 Bomb 09/10/07 Separated next day OW - broke up and H moved out 09/07/08 Status - still figuring this out
Jenny, I'm finally caught up on you. Sorry I have been missing from your thread. Here are my thoughts.
1. Happy belated b-day to your D. I'm glad you were able to enjoy that day. It has been so long since my Ds were that age and it is such a fun age. Make the most of it
2. I wouldn't move ahead with anything on your house at this time. Sure it would be easier for H if you bought him out, but won't it put a strain on you. I'm assuming MIL isn't charging him rent. Go ahead and research it and let H know you did. Just tell him you aren't to decide at this point.
3. Clearly your MIL has her own issues to deal w/. I know mine does and maybe if she would have dealt w/ some 25 or 30 years ago and had a healthier marriage, H and I might as well. I do see us repeating the pattern of his parents. Although they have been married over 40 years, they haven't been happy since I've known them.
4. I thought I was the only one overly hopeful. I haven't brought up our R to H in months. H hasn't never brought up D, that has only been me. I have no idea of his intentions. As for, until those papers are signed, I would say there is hope.
