Thanks again for your kindness and your "expert" advice. Thanks for the book tip on boundaries. I'll find that one in the bookstore soon.

I'm like you. I give better advice than what I put into practice.

You're right on target again with my shrink regarding no more apologies. I agree with you.

Thanks for the Val. Day card advice. I haven't thought of the fact that she's both expecting and dreading one. She didn't even send me a Christmas card although I sent her one and took a gift to her house. She didn't even call to thank me for the gift until I sent her a text asking if she got it 2 days later. She's really been a b**ch. (Venting again). Actually, she's said it herself that she realizes she's a selfish, cold b**ch.

What would you do to "test the waters?" Call, text, card? I played this "leave me alone" game back in August & Sept. At the end of July, she said, "don't call me, I'll call you." Well, I didn't call her for 7 weeks. Then on Sept. 23, she sent me a text asking how I was then she called an hour later. We ended up going out that weekend. Then the week after made love (for the first & only time since May). Dated a few times in October although there were many discussions of "we don't get along" and "this is not right religiously". Then we had one date in early Nov. and I haven't seen her since. So it's been 3 months today since we've seen each other. Haven't spoken on the phone with her since Dec. 12 (7 weeks). We sent several text messages during Xmas and 2 or 3 times in January.

I'm losing my usual hope with this house drama. If she sells that house, I would imagine that I'll never see her again. I know it's just a house but it's where we spent most of our time together for 2 years. Lots of incredible memories. I am a hard core sentimentalist and would really get a lot of pleasure from living there. I know both of you said NO, don't buy the house and I will certainly give that some thought BUT I really do just love the house, where it's located, not totally for the sentimental value. I would never be sad thinking that's where we made most of our memories. Just the opposite. It would be comforting. Is that crazy?

Thank you for all your help. God bless you all with your own problems. K