Listen to what Niki is saying, she is good at this and nails the points dead one. This thread helps me as much as it does you. Thats the great thing about these BB's is that it sometimes is so easy to see someone elses sitch, but so difficult to comprehend your own.
I don't want to twist Niki's words, but it will help me to write this out, so if I'm wrong Niki, please feel free to correct and clarify where you can.
1. Your R is over. You have to realize this and quit denying it.
2. Crying, begging, chasing, sending cards is an attempt to hold on to the old R.
3. No one will love you if your weak, so work on yourself.
4. Hopefully, after some major work on your part, if your still in the same mind set, your old partner sees this after some time and wants to work on things.
5. You can't have a R with them until they want too.
6. Once they decide they want a R with you, if they do, then the real work begins.
7. If they decide they don't, well your already on your way to a better you and a greater life and better R's, having realized that you can and will survive and thrive without them.
Keep your faith and hope for you, pray often, and keep your head high.
