John ... be aware of the negaive things she says - but focus on the good stuff. Show your compassion. You're understanding that when you get to the real "unconditional" or "agape" love - that it doesn't matter what she says or does, you love her anyway. How I've described it to oters is: "you learn to love not because of what she does FOR you, rather, you love her in spite of what she does TO you." I sense you're getting there.
Knowing what you do (your last post), and assuming you did have M issues, what is the compassionate thing to do for her?
Me - 43 and She -36. No kids. Married 7 yrs - Together 14 yrs
