SH, I agree that writing things down helps. I need to do that too. If things were to start from page one now, do you want a H like yours, at this moment? Do you think your H will like a person like you? I know you are pretty and strong and way better than OW, but from your H's point of view, do you have the qualities that H wants, at this moment? H do not see as coming back as redeeming or correcting what he did wrong, he will come back if he sees you as a more attractive package than OW. That sucks to think who you are competing with, but that's life.
You will know when you are ready to file. I think your heart will tell you. This week will be tough, especially if you are visiting relatives. Take care.
