I think he explicitly said that he didn't ask for her to come home. Mistake on his part, certainly. But if the roles were reversed, I'm not buying that anyone would give a fig that the wife didn't explicitly tell her H to come home to her.
Brian wrote that his wife told him that if he asked her to come home she would. Brian thought he shouldn't have to ask. IMO, if he wanted her to come home he should have said so.
How many times have posters on this board discussed that people (especially those of the female persuasion) should not expect their spouses to read minds? Whatever happened to taking responsibility for getting your needs met? Why didn't he just tell his wife he needed her and wanted her to come right home?
If he had asked and she had just blown him off that would be a different matter.
