MMB, B, My honest opinion on these 2 books is they are very worthwhile read. They show us LBS what is most probably going through the WAS' brain. He talks about how the WAS tries to show us LBSs that they are doing well and how they are always watching and assessing what's going on in the LBS' situation. They stay away out of stubborness/guilt. It's the compassion and faithful stand/prayers of the LBS that eventually bring them home. It serves the LBS to continue to be kind, patient with the WAS, and for the LBS to change permanently. The WAS will notice the changes.
My H noticed changes in me on the day he moved out. Over the next 9 months, he saw more and more changes but remained torn due to the fact that he has issues that he needs to resolve before he can be with me. And he's nervous that he can't change himself. I think this is the main reason we're still apart. Recently, he has seen through an incident at work, that I am not the only one he gets angry at. And he said he needed to do some work on himself. So hopefully he is working on himself now.
