BT,
No, you are right, none of us deserved to be "dumped" but people get to a point where they just have had enough.

How long since the bomb?

It takes time, but you must be patient with her and continue to work on yourself.

You need to become the Man she Married!!

There can be no testimony without a test.
I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.