I've been thinking about your situation and it is similar to mine. (H still in house)
My kids are older and some people think that it doesn't necessarily affect them.
It does and although they may not say it, they can see and feel the dinamics of the relationship.
Early on I told the kids exactly what was going on, and they didn't thank me for it at the time,they have since.
They need to know that a relationship does not have to be this cold.
That people who love each other don't treat each other this way.
Not always in a bad way but cold....
They thanked me and said "Don't worrymom, you'll be fine. People should't treat anyonelike that."
I then told them that their dad was not always like this and that they were right...but that I was willing to take a stand for myself (which I did, I let him know when I don't appreciate when he talks to me with disrespect)
I will try to wrk this out but not at the cost of my self respect and the respect of my kids.
I do love their dad and he is going through "something" and hopefully we will be together when it is all said and done.
I don't want them to think that I will just throw in the towel, but at the same time I will not be treated like a 2nd class citizen.
At this point they started to repect me for what I am trying to do but not put up with.
Believe me Jeff, it is not the best thing to do it for your kids if it changes who you are and need to be...yourself.
Be yourself,be honest with yourself, and the kids....
They will look back and remember how you changed to the happier you.
You deserve it you know.
E
"Sometimes in the winds of change, we find our true direction"
