All Hope is lost/Help - Part 2

[seekpeaceofmind]

This is an interesting line of thought. I think rituals can be uniting and they can be confining. We cooked and ate dinner together almost every night. It got to be a burden even though it was also nice.

My H also used to call or stop by at work, but when I got a more stressful job, I didn't receive him well. It wasn't that I wasn't glad for his attention, but I would still be irritated by the interruption or just unable to shift my attention to him. If I get the chance, I would definitely change that dynamic.
When I realized that we were getting further apart, I tried to change things so that we could connect during the workday. One thing I tried was to get him to meet me for a walk at lunchtime, but it just didn't work out. Part of my reason for that is that I don't like to discuss work when I get home, because I just want to forget about it, but that meant I wasn't sharing a big (the biggest) part of my life with him, so I thought that I could talk "work" on these walks.

Although, looking at it from my perspective and giving myself a break, it is kind of rude to interrupt a person's concentration. It would really irritate me at the end of the day when I would be trying to finish things up so I could leave and he would call for the "what do you want for dinner" discussion. From his side though, I'm sure I just seemed cold and mean. In reality I was frustrated b/c I wanted to be home already and still had work and commute to deal with.