As if one trial were not enough, my mother-in-law because ill and needed bypass surgery. It is a complicated situation to explain, but of the three siblings, my W was the only child to answer the call and offer to fly out of state to go to her mother's aid. MIL made it through the surgery fine and was released home on schedule. My W has been there with her M since.
Then, the twist: I took an unexpected turn for the worse. During an afternoon work meeting, I buckled over in excruciating pain. I left work, drove home, and made an appointment with my doctor for the very next day. To cut to it, I drove myself to my doctor's office, he shot me with some meds, and called an ambulance to have me transported to the ER immediately. I will spare the details other than to say that I was in pretty bad shape. Still doped on two drips of a morphine equivalent, I text messaged both my wife and mother, each of them thousands of miles away from me, and let them know what was going on. My mother boarded the very next flight and was by my side the next morning. My wife on the other hand, called several times to tell me she would be thinking of me and wished me well.
So, here is the crux of my dilemma. Yes, my MIL was recovering from a serious procedure. Though, during that time, I was hospitalized twice, underwent surgery, suffered a great deal, and spent many very turbulent touch-and-go evenings with no one but my mother lying on couch next to me. No, I never asked my wife to find another sibling to fill in for caring for their mother so that my wife could come home to me. However, I did not think it should be my place to ask. Now, I find myself very bitter and angry with my W. Though, I am not sure if I really have a right to feel this way.
I'll drop this now because I find it impossible to believe that any woman on this board would be remotely okay with her husband tending to his mother in recovery from heart bypass surgery rather than coming back to be with her as she faced the real possibility of dying. Even SG. Even Fearless.
Cemar's pretty much got this one nailed.
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