She's gone...I'm devastated, but hopeful

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Hi MM, looks like things are moving fast. Even now, and your sitch is kind of like mine, remember the basics, GAL!!! Detach (not too much, but more than you think) "it's not about you", give her space.

This last week, I've gone back to the basics, including not bringing up R talk. My W called this morning, we talked for just over an hour, all pretty positive even when we touched on serious topics. I think my week of GALing, focusing on myself, not worrying about her or us, helped to bring her closer to me. I think you know what I mean. Don't forget the basics. Maybe for the rest of our marriage we need to remember it.

Doesn't the DB book talk about the "who ARE you and what have you done with my husband?" phenominon. It's important to be careful that you aren't changing to impress her. She will be able to tell if you are trying to manipulate her. I think you and I need to re-read that part of the book, how to handle the "who are you" and the "why are you changing now, why didn't you do this years ago" (often said with anger).

Enjoy the game.